Romance is Dead; It's All About Friends with Benefits

By Bryan Cain-Jackson

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Just a thought that I wanted to share and everyone to consider… Does it seem that romance has died?

Young men just don’t seem as chivalrous as they once were or as much as they should be. I hear this from lady friends all the time. Even in movies they tend to lack in romance these days.

This in a way kind of goes back to an earlier post that I wrote entitled “That Irritating Thing That Men and Women Do.”

When a young woman comes across a man that opens her doors and brings a rose for her on a date, it seems like the trip out alarm goes off. Women may still want romance but are so used to not getting it, that when they do they have no idea how to react to it.

The same goes for affection, women are so not used to receiving it from a man that when they get it the suspicion alert goes off.

Romance is meant to be that pleasurable and exciting feeling that is associated with courtship. Are men still courting women? Are they just dating with no future possibility of going any further?

The answer is simple…

“Friends with benefits” are supposed to be the most uncomplicated relationship out there, yet it tends to complicate. This is because there are supposed to be no strings attached to sex, yet it is human nature or it should be to feel an emotional connection with the person one allows to invade their body. Most of the time in these types of relationships one person will get attached, the other will get upset, and an opportunity for a quality friendship or relationship is truly lost.

I personally feel that romance is important for foreplay, foreplay is important for sex, and intimacy is best left with a connection rather than without. I am a very romantic man, and I am chivalrous with my woman.

A benefits based relationship is not best for everyone. Some of you should evaluate yourselves emotionally before entering one.

Romance and an emotional connection are phenomenal feelings when people allow themselves to feel it. Intimacy should not just fulfill a physical need if someone is drowning in emotional uncertainty. It should be that feeling like you are on cloud nine and nothing but good will come from it. If people started treating each other’s bodies more like a temple rather than the Easy 8 motel, there wouldn’t be so many scorned women and STD’s. That makes sense, right?